| Why marriages don’t last’ 4 3 ; y by Rev. T. Conway, OMI Holy Cross Roman Catholic Church - The papers list the wed- ding announcements, hours of preparation go into ceremonies and cele- brations, invitations are sent out, friends and rela- tives come from far and wide for the occasion, and a young couple exchange vows in a glow of love, happiness and hope. It is the ‘‘marriage season’’ a- gain! Couples are still getting married, in spite of the fact that they have been living as married for a year or more. Supposedly this experience will result in a more successful mar- riage. ‘ So, why go through the formalities? Perhaps be- cause it’s the thing to do, perhaps to have a party, perhaps because down deep there is a recognition that something more than just moving in together is needed by the human spirit. Yet, we are living in an age that does not encour- age or promote lasting, lifetime marriages; our so- ciety encourages a style of life that gets us so involv- ed in so many ways and puts on so much pressure to succeed, to make mon- ey and to be popular that ‘marriage’ and ‘‘family life’? have difficulty sur- viving, unless we are strong enough to resist the pressure and maintain family as a priority. It would appear that many get sucked in by society’s CANADIAN CANCER SOCIETY * invest over three million dollars in research; * provide subsidized accommoda- tion in the Vancouver and Victo- ria Lodges for over 1,600 out-of- town patients undergoing diag- nosis and treatment there; ’ * train 30 volunteers to operate a daily Cancer Information Line, which averaged 400 calls a month; * train volunteers in emotional support programs like Reach to Recovery for women with breast cancer; * provide financial assistance in transportation, equipment rental and items not covered by Pharmacare; * produce education booklets such as, ‘Cancer Prevention and the Worker” and ‘Food Choices for Cancer Prevention.” oe -_ BRITISH COLUMBIA AND YUKON DIVISION These Sun Fun kids took time out from watching the movie during their sleep over line and only too late realize the price that has been paid. So, what does it take to make marriage work? Ob- viously living together is not the magic answer; the so-called being compatible is a myth, to a great extent. The notion of love as a feeling, and this is the level we are encouraged to live at, is not sufficient. It does not jive with - that of Jesus Christ, who said: ‘‘No one has greater love than to lay down his life for his friend.’’ Sure, the feeling will be there at times, and rejoice in it, but even when it is not, the love must remain. Real love is a decision! A decision to be with this partner through thick and thin, when I feel like it and when I don’t. Real love is a commitment! It is a willingness to sacrifice my wishes and feelings at times, for the good of this other I say I love. And it is not enough to think or say I am willing to love this person; I must do it! To live this kind of love takes maturity—and what’s that? It means to be sufficiently at peace with who I am that I can ‘see myself as gift to my partner. Not God’s great- est gift to the opposite sex, just a blessing and benefit for the other’s growth and fulfilment as a person. It means that I can respect my partner in his/ her integrity and recognize the gift returned to me. It means standing together in a sacred partnership, in Room 5 of the Community Centre to give a happy wave to the camera. side by side, walking to- gether, working together, supporting each other in good times and in bad; not controlling or trying to control each othet, not having to be right all the time or have the last word. Maturity means being willing and able to com- promise. This is the kind of love that will work in mar- riage, will make marriage not only tolerable, but a true joy, a fulfilling way of life for two people. This is the kind of love that God is. It isn’t there when He isn’t there and whatever else is there won’t work, won’t last, when He isn’t the Third Person in a marriage, the love binding the two to- gether. This kind of love isn’t easy. The commitment and respect must be lived out, expressed in a variety of ways on a daily basis. Some days one partner will need more from the other, some days it will be reversed. Only the imma- ture will be concerned with who’s getting more. It is sad to see a couple who glowed with happi- ness and expectation on their wedding day, sad and confused and without hope a few years later. It doesn’t have to be! If only persons would grow up as persons before trying to live as married or before getting married; if only our society, and that’s all of us, would encourage personal growth before personal satisfaction! District of Tumbler Ridge ~ Public Notice District of Tumbler Ridge Municipal Hall 305 Founders Effective 4th July 1988 to 2nd September 1988, Municipal Hall will be on the summer hours schedule of 8:00 a.m. to 4:30 p.m. R.A. Miles Clerk-Administrator District of Tumbler Ridge | \ July 20, 1988, Weekly Record - 11 District of Tumbler Ridge LAND USE BYLAW AMENDMENTS PUBLIC HEARING District of Tumbler Ridge Land Use Amendment By-Law ‘No. 99, 1984 " “By-law to Amend Land Use By-law 'No. 12, 1982” | |NOTICE IS HEREBY GIVEN that a Public Hearing with regard to the following amendments to “District of Tumbler Ridge Land Use Bylaw No. 12, 1982” will be held in the Council Chambers of the Municipal Hall, 305 Founders Street, Tumbler Ridge, B.C., on Tuesday, August 2nd, 1988 at 6:30 p.m. local time. By-law No. 12 is propsed to be amended as follows: (a) Section 2 - Definitions is amended by adding the following definitions: BOARDERS & LODGERS means a person who, in return for consideration has his place of residence a separate or shared sleeping room in a dwelling unit, and who is not a member of the family. BUILDING means a structure located off the ground which is designed, erected, or intended for the support, enclosure or protection of persons, animals or property. For the purpose of this by-law vehicles shall not be considered to be buildings. BUILDING INSPECTOR means the person duly appointed as such from time to time 43 the Council and includes any person designated by the Inspector to act on his behalf. COMBINED COMMERCIAL AND RESIDENTIAL USE means a use that includes commercial and one residential use which shall be contained in the same pepe and have a separate or outside entrance, except where the use is gasoline service station or motel, in which case the dwelling unit may be in a separate building from the commercial use. COUNCIL means the Municipal Council of the District of Tumbler Ridge. DEVELOPMENT PERMIT AREA means a site or zone so designated in By-law No. 20, 1982, which allows for special conditions and regulations for development of any property within this area. : DWELLING, ROW HOUSING means a block of at least three side by side dwelling units, with each dwelling having an individual exterior entrance or entrances and in which dwelling unit is separated from each other by a party wall. DWELLING, SINGLE FAMILY means any building consisting of one dwelling unit which is occupied or intended to be occupied as the permanent home or residence of one © family, and containing not more than one (1) set of major cooking appliances. DWELLING, TOWNHOUSE means a dwelling or row housing where each dwelling unit is situated on a lot and capable of individual ownership. DWELLING, TWO FAMILY means any building consisting of two dwelling units each of weer is occupied or intended to be occupied as the permanent home or residence of a ‘amily. DWELLING UNIT means one or more habitable rooms, constituting a self contained unit with separate entrance and containing cooking, eating, living, sleeping and sanitary fertitins to be used or intended to be used as the permanent home or residence of one ‘amily. FAMILY means one or more persons related by blood or marriage or up to three unrelated persons jointly occupying a dwelling unit. FENCE means a railing, or enclosing some area. FLOOR AREA means the total area of all the floors measured to the extreme outer limits a the ar heclile including enclosed porches, verandas, and balconies except areas used or parking. NON-CONFORMING BUILDING OR USE means any building or use already existing which does not conform with all the regulations of this by-law, or any amendment thereto, for the zoning district in which such building or use is located. STRUCTURE means anything constructed or erected, the use of which requires location on the ground or attachment to something having location on the ground, but shall not include fences, walkways and paved driveways. YARD FRONT - by adding the following words to the exisitng definition: “except in the case of a corner lot, the yard where the principal building faces may be considered front yard for the purposes of fencing.” j3. Section 33(a) is amended by adding the following: (9) Sun-tannery, restricted to one unit per residence. '4. Section 36.A Clause (1) (a) is amended by adding the following words: “except in the case of a corner lot, the side yard fence adjacent to the street may be fenced a maximum height of one metre.” 5. Section 3&7) is deleted in its entirety and replaced with the following: (7) Accessory Building - Structures and Uses (a) An accessory building or structure shall not be used as a dwelling except as otherwise provided in this by-law. (b) {Accessory buildings or structures are permitted in all zones provided: Except for attached carports and garages, which shall have a common wall _with the principal buildings, accessory buildings shall be located at least 15m from any front property line, at least 2m from any principal building and ~ 1.20m from any lot line except as provided in clause iv. : (ii) |Accessory buildings shall not be located in a front yard. (iii) Height shall not exceed 4m. (iv) On corner lots, accessory buildings and structures shall be placed so as to retain the same yard from any flanking street as the principal building. (v) .Any one accessory building shall not exceed a length or width of 7.50m and maximum floor area of 50 sq. m. (vi) There shall be no more than 60 sq. m. in floor area or accessory buildings on each registered site. (vii) Greenhouses which are temporary in nature may be located 0.90m from side and rear property lines except as provided in clause iv. 1A copy of the proposed Bylaw may be inspected at the Municipal Hall on any business da ,; between the hours of 8:00 a.m. and 4:30 p.m. local time (except Holidays). At the hearing all persons who deem their interest in property affec e proposed Bylaw shall be afforded an \ hod heir i ti rty aff peg Hs d Byl hall be afforded | eppattunity to be heard on matters pertinent to the Bylaws. Submissions will not be accepted ‘after termination of the Public Hearing. paling, trellis, tower or other screening forming a boundary to R.A. Miles Clerk-Administrator : : ‘District of Tumbler Ridge . ‘July 12, 1988 ae ae ee eae _ HOSPITALITY PAYS BE ATOURISM AMBASSADOR ,